tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4546660525329091713.post1805889595855934369..comments2023-08-02T09:00:11.009+02:00Comments on Life, the universe and Nuffing...: Optional extrasJaneFhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05624529776216917022noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4546660525329091713.post-22841618516971423522009-10-03T09:10:41.497+02:002009-10-03T09:10:41.497+02:00Its difficult to balance everything but I know thi...Its difficult to balance everything but I know this. What you give you should get back in return. I'm not talking materialist things, I mean emotionally. If you don't, get out. Its got to be a two way street and each needs their own space and own interests. If you hold on too tight and give give give, you become resentful eventually. You need to be happy with the balance you've created in your world. Once you're happy with the equalibrium then contentment kicks on. Just my two cents worth.Gillianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01922985143036647579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4546660525329091713.post-28405185021274601342009-10-03T10:12:17.195+02:002009-10-03T10:12:17.195+02:00Oh baby..... I am not good with being an option ei...Oh baby..... I am not good with being an option either.... I'm all of nothing either... I also compromise myself to appease which in the end leads to resentment... while other times because I feel 'cheated' emotionally I demand what *I* want causing kak... life is not for sussies hey? I don't know the answers.... I do think like Gillian says that there needs to be a balance.The Nocturnalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11628503358175615121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4546660525329091713.post-18511544171939125932009-10-03T18:13:13.114+02:002009-10-03T18:13:13.114+02:00I could have written this - in fact I think I have...I could have written this - in fact I think I have :)<br><br>I dont have the answer my friend! Plane Boy and I are back on again BUT this time I am not compromising as much as I did the first time round. He has now realised that HE has to also shuffle things and try fit in with me! Its still very early days but so far its going alot better!<br><br>I also loose myself in someone and am consciously now trying to NOT do that without stopping being who I am naturally!Laurahttp://www.harassedmom.co.zanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4546660525329091713.post-25568640334246148402009-10-04T06:45:34.198+02:002009-10-04T06:45:34.198+02:00its very hard to maintain something that is not in...its very hard to maintain something that is not instinctive.<br><br>my ex told me to be less black and white - to allow more grey. i tried. but it was too exhausting.<br><br>it's a dilemma for many of us....<br><br>xxxMerielnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4546660525329091713.post-13989266499330378802009-10-05T11:41:26.653+02:002009-10-05T11:41:26.653+02:00OPTION 1) Start with the premise that life is KAK....OPTION 1) Start with the premise that life is KAK. Everything else is a bonus. Whether that bonus is an 'option', a 'black' or a 'white, or indeed a 'grey', they're ALL bonuses. And they're ALL exciting.<br><br>OPTION 2) You can be black and white today, all or nothing on Thursday, and grey tomorrow. Don't make hard and fast RULES around these things. <br><br>OPTION 3) Gillian has a very good point, but i disagree - slightly - with expectation. Expect NOTHING. Accept everything. Look up Anthony Hopkins' "expect nothing" quote... its quite cool how he arrived at it.<br><br>OPTION 4) What you nurture will grow. eg If you nurture MacDonalds, you will grow a big tummy. What you don't nurture will atrophy. You get to choose.<br><br>OPTION 5) Nobody does anything to you. You get to choose your perspective. Nurture a good / postive perspective.<br><br>OPTION 6) People do things, any things, everything, for two reasons ONLY. a) They need to [eg pay rent], and/or b) it makes them feel better. That's it. <br><br>OPSOMMING: Do the things that make you feel better. That covers black, white, grey, and all or nothing. You got to practise it tho. Its not as easy as it sounds. See option 1) If you miss the goal, it adds to the excitement, the adventure. Knowing what you don't want helps point you in the direction of what you do want. Roll the boulder down hill. Much easier than rolling it uphill...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4546660525329091713.post-84066187241807914432009-10-06T16:42:27.435+02:002009-10-06T16:42:27.435+02:00I'm with the last commenter on #3 (unrealistic...I'm with the last commenter on #3 (unrealistic expectations result in disappointment), #5 (you create your own situations) and #6 (people only do things because they want to). Once you have those and a good dose of 'fuck it' attitude you're made :)Ashnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4546660525329091713.post-5748670933343295152009-10-06T22:10:35.595+02:002009-10-06T22:10:35.595+02:00Its a very difficult line not to cross because its...Its a very difficult line not to cross because its very easy to do...angelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09423318903817661244noreply@blogger.com