Thinking & Feeling

“The world is a tragedy to those who feel, but a comedy to those who think.” Horace Walpole

Friday, 24 November 2017

Thanksgiving 2017

At first I didn’t want to celebrate thanksgiving this year. It felt like I have nothing to be thankful for… but then the more I thought about it, the more I realised I do indeed have a LOT to be thankful for.

Despite the worst possible start this year, which has by far been the very hardest of my life, I am thankful for:

Cynthia continuing to fly the Cape Town Thanksgiving banner high. And organising the whole thing on her own, and doing a superb job of it too. This year all I had to do was rock up. Rather than the large extended (40-60 people) Thanksgiving dinner we'd been hosting, this year was a smaller more intimate group of about 16 of us. It was perfect.

Andrew. Whose love care and commitment to me has remained constant, despite no obligation to do so. He proves himself to be a consistently good and really decent person in all and everything he does. His continued acceptance of and care for me has been truly humbling. He is the true embodiment of a mensch as they’d say in Yiddish.

My boys Quinn & Griffin: Who despite many hardships, curve-balls and tragedies in their lives, and especially this year, remain positive, enthusiastic and strong, and so supportive of and gentle with me. Looking after me when I can't (but should be) the one looking after them.

To all the amazing people who have surrounded us with love, care, support, generosity and connection throughout this year. I don’t think we could have done it without you all, holding us up, when it felt like we couldn’t.

And this new life growing inside me: Who I hope will grow and thrive and that we will be adequate parents to.

And for Natey. Who was here for far too short a time and left us far too soon, but who lit up all of our lives and brought so much joy, love and happiness to us all.



  1. Oh Jane. This is such a special blog post. "And this new life growing inside me". Wonderful. Congrats. Big hugs, Paula x

  2. May this new life growing inside you bring you joy and blessings. I am so glad for all of you. Natey is too.

  3. Congratulations! You're so very special, you will be more than adequate xx

  4. Just burst into happy tears at my desk when I read your news, hugest congratulations to you all, I think of you often.

  5. Thanks everyone. It's pretty much on the down-low as we are not really ready to share and are still trying to wrap our own heads around all our thoughts and emotions... but yep it seems to be real and happening!

  6. Your news just made my day - yayness to the new life ...... blessings xxx

  7. Fab news Jane, I really am happy for you and for Andrew. A new life to brighten your days and keep you on your toes, as only the small people know how to do. Sending love x

  8. You write so beautifully Jane. And have slipped in some wonderful news. So glad 'it's real and happening'. Congrats to you both.

  9. I cried. I wish you a happy pregnancy and a safe delivery. I picture Nate kissing this little one and waving him or her on their journey. ♡ I am thankful that I've known you for a long time.

    1. Thank-you. I am really feeling the strain this time, mentally, physically and emotionally. I am not sure that my body will ever forgive me... but trusting that all will be well with both of us. xxx

    2. I think about you and all your boys so often. Mazeltov.. I look forward to celebrating a new life. 💜