A Jane by any other name...* Hahahaha excuse the pun right there!
With apologies to William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet.
"Tis but thy name that is my enemy;
Thou art thyself, though not a Weideman."
"What's in a name? That which we call a Jane
By any other name would be still insane."
"Without that title. Doff* thy name,
And for that name which is no part of me"
I hereby set myself free!
When I got divorced I had no intention of changing back to my maiden name. I had been married for 10 years (mostly happily I had thought), I had children of that name. It was my name, my identity. I felt no reason to take a stand. I expected things to be reasonable, functional, amicable even. I wanted myself and the boys to have the same surname. I wanted everyone to get along. I did not want to cause hurt, resentment or issues. I thought we could all be mature about it.
But as time has gone by and the insanity and issues have escalated and become more and more intolerable I have felt less and less comfortable about being associated with that name and him. Now after recent developments and findings I am actually no longer prepared to use his name. I will no longer be associated with him at all. And so I am doing it!
So I am no longer Jane Weideman
JaneW
JW
Weidewoman
Ja Well
I am Jane Fraser
JaneF
JF
I am Just Fine!
p.s. The boys have asked to change their names too. Several times already actually. Completely unprompted. They say they prefer my name. I'll see what I can do.
Sound like you have an Uncorigible Sence of Humor. Good for You.
ReplyDeleteIncorrigible! :P
ReplyDeleteMais oui. Toujours!
Big step that :) You go girl!!
ReplyDeleteTertia has a famous line: "hold your head up high and say your name loud and proud".
ReplyDeleteGood for you !
Good for you :) I love the JF "Just Fine"
ReplyDeleteI does like it
ReplyDeleteI did this the day after I was divorced! Started doing it before aswell!
ReplyDeleteIt was HUGELY liberating!
I also love the JF "Just Fine"
ReplyDeleteGood for you!
All the best for 2010 JF - you'll be Just Fine!