Thinking & Feeling

“The world is a tragedy to those who feel, but a comedy to those who think.” Horace Walpole

Monday, 20 January 2014

Pregnant Pause

So I have so much news and so many updates, but I am just not getting around to any of them. So instead of trying to catch up first and keep everything in sequence. Let me just blurt out the big news first...

I am pregnant. Yup you read that right. I am nearly 10 weeks along (and feeling like complete shit 24/7 - such fun! - which is a big part of why I am so behind on everything).

I'll explain it all properly in time, but for now the headline is:
- Yes is was actually planned, believe it or not.
- It's a pretty complicated situation and very unconventional, and is basically a modified 'surrogacy', so the baby is not 'mine'.
- No haven't suddenly lost my mind (that happened ages ago already!)

Feel free to comment/ask questions. I'll respond in a  follow-up post.

I actually hope to journal and track this experience, and hope that this feeling shit 24/7 passes soon so I can actually start to enjoy the experience, because up to now it's been pretty miserable.

Note: I have not mentioned this on Facebook (ie the 'real world' LOL) yet, so keep it 'private for now.


  1. Wow, you are so very brave to do this!

  2. Thanks Cat.

    As with a lot of what I do, I am not sure if it's brave or stupid, but one thing is for sure I do not make my life boring or ordinary! ;)

  3. Oh my freakin' word! How did I miss this news? Had to go back in the archives here to get the scoop :-) Wow. (And I have a preggy-buddy, yay!)

  4. Oh my hat, you are so funny, but so real. Ok, you asked for questions - so what is the situation? - surrogacy? Why is that so complicated? Have you shared with the kids? Are they supportive? Don't mention on FB -lol@ how socila media has changed our lives

  5. Thanks Maggie. It is cool to have a buddy! You're a bit ahead of me, but feel free to ask if you have questions, esp about anything 'natural'. I am aiming for a home birth this time, preferably in water. It would be my pinnacle goal. :)

  6. Hi Pheasant Plucker - presumably I know you somehow..? Yes it is a surrogacy arrangement. But not a standard one, hence the complication. Yes the boys know (and were included in the decision-making process too). They have been very supportive. Incredibly so - as in actually caring for me and keeping the household going during the peak of morning sickness when was less than functional. Social media is a bit of a drama-queen and I try to keep super-personal stuff off there. Just a personal choice, once the world at large knows it will be fine, but I'd like to explain to my boss on my time and as soon as I have an idea that baby is well and viable (after the scan in 2 weeks) and the pregnancy will continue.

  7. Wow. Hats off to you . You are amazing