Thinking & Feeling

“The world is a tragedy to those who feel, but a comedy to those who think.” Horace Walpole

Friday, 21 December 2012

At last!

Xmas 2012 - Crazy Fraser's Wrap-Up

It is hard to believe we are at the end of another year!

Although it has been an extremely full and busy one (aren't they all?) and a lot has happened, it seems like just the other day that I was summarising 2011.

Once again I think we have had a happy, and successful year with much to be grateful for on the whole. We have worked hard, played hard, and had lots of fun, travels and adventures - with a few challenges and successes mixed in. 
Some highlights are mentioned below, in more or less sequential order:

To start the year the boys and I were privileged to be invited on a  trip to Namibia, a country I'd never been to and actually knew very little about. We enjoyed a fabulous 10-day trip from Windhoek, to Etosha, then Swakopmund, Sossusvlei, Mariental and back home. Namibia is a beautiful country and we had a wonderful and very memorable time there. The landscape, desert terrain, dunes, animal life and rock formations are spectacular. I'll definitely go back to see more sometime.

In March I had an opportunity to go on a last-minute whistle-stop week-end trip to Dublin, Ireland. It was a whirlwind trip, but was absolutely wonderful staying in a gorgeous and quite luxurious hotel. Drinking Guinness direct from the source at the Guinness Storehouse was quite a treat as was getting to eat at the Gordon Ramsay restaurant at the Powesrcourt Hotel!

Following quick on the heels of that trip, was Quinn's 5th (and hopefully final) Cholesteatoma-related ear surgery. His titanium prosthetic ossicle has come out of his ear drum and our by now beloved ENT Ollie and Prof James Looke replaced it again and did some other magic during a 5+hour surgery. We are very pleased to report that despite some initial concerns the new prosthesis seems to have settled in well and his right ear is now the better-hearing ear, so we are thrilled! His hearing is functional now and his ear are stable which is awesome. We are as always very grateful for the top-class care we receive which has made a world of a difference to Quinn and his ears and hearing issues.

Then came my first ever Argus Cycle Tour event. 111km around the Cape Peninsula. It was a stinker of a day and I was VERY nervous before hand, but I loved it and it went pretty well and I was happy with my time of 5h16m.

After the big op the boys, Andrew and I jetted off to Thailand and Cambodia, via Dubai, for a fabulous 2 week holiday. We spent one day in Dubai, and then several days in each of Bangkok, Chiang Mai, Pai, and Siem Reap. I love SE Asia and we had an awesome time touring, shopping, eating, walking and eating some more. The Temple Complex of Angkor Wat was a highlight for me, and the people and temples, food and vibrancy of the whole region just inspires me and makes me so happy and fulfilled.

We came back from our holiday during the day before the Two Oceans Half Marathon, which I had entered and had committed to running in support of a charity cause. So despite being wholly unprepared, exhausted and tired with jet-lag I woke up at 4am to go run it. It was a tough tough race. But somehow I survived it and finished in a fairly decent 1h58m.

After that most of the year was filled with school, work and running and very little else. The boys now 12(nearly 13!) and 11, completed Grade 5 & 7 respectively at school. Griffin has come into his own and has started performing quite well and is a hard working and conscientious little boy who has a firm set of principles and a good work ethic which he sticks to. Quinn has had a varied year either doing brilliantly, or not so well at all, depending on his whims at the time and how interested he is (and how adolescent he is behaving) etc. Both have really grown and matured this year though and really are independent, helpful, cooperative and thoughtful. I am very grateful for their help and understanding and assistance in day to day life. They are wonderful boys and I am proud and privileged to be their mother.

In October the boys and I again attended Rocking the Daisies and as always had a fantastic time camping and enjoying the local music talents SA has to offer, and following that Andrew and I spent a couple of night in Tulbagh celebrating his big birthday milestone. It was a lovely break out of town and the craziness of life and work and we enjoyed some calmth fresh air, cycling, wine farms, chocolates, wine and food.

In November we were lucky to be included in an authentic traditional Thanksgiving dinner with Andrew and his American friends. I had no idea how much food that involved and how much it was possible to eat, or how you could fit 50-60 people in one person's living-room for a sit down dinner. But somehow we pulled it off and it was fabulous. I loved it!

I have personally worked way longer and harder than I ever have before, and had to sacrifice a lot of personal time and social opportunities in the process. The boys also had to be patient with me and understand that I had much less time and energy for them a lot of the time, but we all got through it. I was managing a large project which was part of a huge programme which took over a year to deliver. My project was 3000-day's worth of effort and the programme was about 30 000! Towards the end I was roped in to be Implementation Manager for the big Release Deployment which took place this past week-end. It seemed to be an insurmountable task and was completely overwhelming at times. But somehow I managed to pull all the many many threads and checklists and plans together and we coordinated about 200 people in about 15 teams on 3 different continents to work through a plan which started on the Thursday night and finished on Tuesday morning, and despite one or two hiccoughs since has really been a huge success. It is a huge relief and feels good to have achieved something that big!

On the work front things have been a bit uncertain on both the client and our side with a lot of positions being cut. Our futures are all a little uncertain. I am still here, for now, and sincerely hope that will continue for a while yet, as despite the long hours and very hard work, I do love my job and we have a fantastic team and are treated very well.

Quinn has recently upgraded from specs to contact lenses, as prescribed by the ophthalmologist. He has been loving them and the freedom to wear goggles and sunglasses and be 'normal' while still being able to see has been a revelation to him.

Other notable an memorable events were:
-          A Personal Best time of 1:51m for a Half Marathon at the Safari Half Marathon in May.
-          A week-end break to the Breede River for a paddling trip with friends for my birthday, which was a new experience for me and was great fun.
-          In July we were invited to a 4th of July gathering which was fun and festive.
-          The Body World Exhibition at the Waterfront for Griff's birthday
-          Sailing to Robben Island and Clifton and back on a lovely sailing yacht.
-          Seeing Jimmy Wales (Wikipedia co-founder) speak
-          An incredible helicopter trip on a Huey Combat helicopter with Andrew
-          Participating in 3-4 #Moonlightmass cycle events. Cycling through the streets of the city with hundreds of others on the night of the full moon. They are really fun and festive.
-          Supporting my friend Beryl who ran and finished the TUFFER PUFFER (160km race) – that was a momentous occasion. WOW.
-          Achieving a personal best time of 48m45s in the Gun Run 10km race
-          Running a record (for me by far!) 2600km for the year! – I did say the year was pretty much work and running!

And with that another year is all but over. Now it's time to finish up at work, prepare for Christmas and wind down towards the end of the year and a well deserved and much need break.

Sorry that I have not had much time to see and stay in contact with many people this year. I hope to have more time and opportunities to see you all in the next year!

Much Love Jane & Boys

Monday, 10 December 2012

It's the most wonderful time of the year

The time when the elves appear!

"It's The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year"

It's The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year
With the kids jingle belling
And everyone telling you "Be of good cheer"
It's The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year
It's the hap -happiest season of all
With those holiday greetings and gay happy meetings
When friends come to call
It's the hap - happiest season of all

There'll be parties for hosting
Marshmallows for toasting
And caroling out in the snow
There'll be scary ghost stories
And tales of the glories of
Christmases long, long ago

It's The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year
There'll be much mistltoeing
And hearts will be glowing
When love ones are near
It's The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year

There'll be parties for hosting
Marshmallows for toasting
And caroling out in the snow
There'll be scary ghost stories
And tales of the glories of
Christmases long, long ago

It's The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year
There'll be much mistltoeing
And hearts will be glowing
When love ones are near
It's The Most Wonderful Time
It's The Most Wonderful Time
It's The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year

This was waiting to greet me

 When I got home this evening...

Saturday, 1 December 2012

Having your parenting validated by your kids...

Must be one of the most rewarding and satisfying feelings ever.

Last night Quinn came home from scouts - where they'd been cycling in Tokai forest and he got a lift there and back by another family - and he said 'Mom thanks for the way you parented us and for not letting us be like them. They are SUCH BRATS!'

Apparently both sons were rude, whiny and demanding the whole time. And the oldest - who is older than Quinn even - cried actual tears twice when he didn't get his own way. And his own way meant 'I want a new bike NOW' on the way to the cycling even which they were already late for!     

Anyway it's really cool when your children start to realise why you do what you do, and moreover actually start to appreciate it and understand the bigger picture and why rules and respect and discipline and manners are important... and that you can't get what you want all the time and are pretty unlikable if you think you can!

Wednesday, 21 November 2012

Spot the difference

Notice anything different...?
Here's another clue....

Got it yet?! J

Tuesday, 20 November 2012

Boys won't get to Change their Surnames

So it seems to be official the Boys Won't Get to Change their Surnames after all.

My ex Mother in Law managed to get hold of my ex finally... and he said NO. Just like that. After 3 years of nothing. No interest shown to us. No care, support, cooperation, no responses, AT ALL. He has now decided he will respond by blocking this.

So my case for the court order, which was based around him being MIA, un-contactable - or at least entirely unresponsive - and hence not appearing to give a crap, no longer holds and he has now effectively and actively blocked this avenue.

I would like to say I was not upset, but I was. I wanted, and maybe even needed, this next step of autonomy. So we can get on with our lives and do the things we need to without having to worry about him, or having to grovel to get him to sign a form or letter, or give consent for us to have the liberty of simply living our lives independently*, as he no doubt gets to do.

In fact it irritated me more than just a bit that after 3+ years of zero contact at all, no calls, cards, emails and not a cent of maintenance since we got divorced 4+ years ago that he now feels the need to assert some kind of right.

The boys were upset too. They have said that although we can not officially process this now and they do have to keep their paternal surnames legally, they won't use it. So for all intents and purposed they shall stay Frasers. 

THEY chose to change them along with mine 3 years ago, they have chosen to keep using them now, and they have said that as soon as they are old enough they'll simply change their surnames themselves.

They have said they would rather perpetuate my family's name going forward and do not want their father's name. (I can't say I blame them. Though I will not direct them or try to influence them further on this. It is entirely their choice.)

Interestingly though on hearing this news, THEY have now asked me to pursue the maintenance issue. Which again was not something I was planning to do, but  it is their right. And again if I don't do it they will be within their rights to pursue it themselves if they wish. 

I am going to think about it. Because if he is going to start to assert his right, we really should start thinking about asserting responsibilities too. But I strongly suspect it would be futile, fruitless and frustrating exercise and I have neither the energy nor inclination to re-engage in any kind of negative energy with him. Again though I will take my cue from the boys on this as they are and always have been my primary concern and responsibility.

* He will need to give consent for us to travel now, as I expect once we are on separate named passports I will get questioned when crossing borders. But I will have to tackle this when we get there.

Tuesday, 13 November 2012

WWYD? Maintenance

What are your views on maintenance?
Should the father have to pay?

What if he was unstable and lost his job and had nothing?
What if he hadn't been in contact for over 3 years?
What if you had never got a cent from him at all since the day of your divorce well over 4 years ago?

What if he is working now and seems to be more stable and coping?

What if you had been stoically and proudly coping ON YOUR OWN all this time?

What if you contacted him simply to request consent for changing the children's surnames and renewing passports, nothing else, but this was blocked and ignored? (passport renewal in his name now agreed)

What if there was a very real risk you'd lose your job soon due to the company facing financial difficulties?

What if your children are tired of sharing and having hand-me-downs and second-hand goods and budget and non-name everything and THEY are asking you to pursue him for maintenance?

What Would You Do?

What should I do??

This is tough, very tough. Yest again I am sucking it up because I don't want to rock the boat or upset him (God know I have spent enough of my life facilitating him and pussy footing around so as not to upset HIM), but is it best for MY CHILDREN? Really?? I thought it was, now I am not so sure. I think I am effectively doing them out of opportunities but being proudly and adamantly independent and self-sufficient.

Any advice or opinions on this VERY WELCOME.

Sunday, 11 November 2012

Look what we made!

Tomorrow is Griffin's birthday. So he needed something to take to school to celebrate with.

We decided on Angry Bird cupcakes.
It took us ALL afternoon and evening, and included a cycle to the shops for more bits and pieces but...

I present to you Griffin's Birthday Angry Bird & Pig Cupcakes!

I baked the cupcakes and everything... the boys helped to decorate.

The pig's snouts were not easy! So they are not as neat. But I am pretty chuffed with how they came out. :)

Friday, 9 November 2012


Most Amazing Surprise Helicopter AKA The Most Incredible Surprise

2 weeks ago on a Sunday I was just going about my day when A called and asked if I could get to the Waterfront by 14:30.

 I told him I had the plans to climb Lion's Head from 17:00 and had stuff to do and had to prepare for that but otherwise yes. So we agreed to meet there and he said I'd be done by 16:30 and could go straight to Lion's Head from there. Cool, so I carried on with my day. I had suggested we go see the Rodriguez movie the night before but he'd not been keen, so I thought 14:30-16:30 sounded like we'd be going to see the movie. Not my first choice on a really stunning still and sunny day in Cape Town, but hey who am I to argue…?

 So I got us ready and packed up and off we zooted to the Waterfront and waited at the Big Wheel as instructed.
 Next thing A appears and gestures me to follow him quickly down the ramp to where the boats are moored and next thing I'd signed and indemnity form and was on a golf cart being whisked away to…

 Huey Helicopter Combat Mission
Huey Helicopter Combat Mission
The Huey helicopters were extensively used in the military and is generally considered to be the most widely used helicopter in the world. Easily identifiable by it's thundering sound and iconic shape, playing a predominant role in several Hollywood blockbusters such as Apocalypse NowM.A.S.HFull Metal Jacket and Platoon.
Now you also get to enjoy a white-knuckle experience during The Simulated Combat Flight with the wind rushing in throughopen doors, and ground-hugging maneuvers adding to the thrill.
For the less adventurous a selection of scenic flights are just as enjoyable with open doors allowing for unobstructed views and the best possible helicopter experience in Cape Town.
It was indescribably frikken incredible! But it all happened so fast it almost feels like a surreal dream. I had no time to anticipate it or build up any excitement. Sometimes I forget it even happened! It was a birthday gift from some of his colleagues and he chose to use it with me.. WHEEE!

I have never been on a helicopter before and this isn't any old chopper-flip it is a adrenalin-pumping stomach-churning 30-mins of extreme exhilaration  Dips, turns, stalls and super low-flying manoeuvers over the sea and the dunes and the hills, grasslands and forested areas of the West Coast. The views and sensations are simply awesome. We skirted the cats seeing shipwrecks and kite-surfers and people playing on the beach. At one stage we went inland and roared down a jeep track with trees right next to us, and we dive bombed some off road bikers too. That was pretty fun.

Anyway photos and better article explaining what it's like follows. But wow what a super awesome experience. THANK-YOU!
 This write up describes the experience really well.
"I love the smell of Cape Town in the morning."  I haven't even seen Apocalypse Now, but I know the line well enough to misquote it. I spoke gruffly, with a dodgy American accent.  I couldn't help myself – I was in a Huey, the iconic combat air vehicle and star of so many films, and I was revved up for a Combat Mission flight.  The rotors were settling into steady whump whump overhead, and the sound system was playing The Doors' This is the End.
Those were the only doors of course.  The Huey is instantly recognisable for its lack of them, a fact which lends a huge boost of extra naughty thrill for a passenger.  My nerves, already stretched with anticipation, had been teased further by the pilot, Lee, who instructed that all bags and sunglasses, loose scarves etc. must be left in a locker because if anything flew out of the plane and into the tail rotor, it could bring the whole 'copter down.  Yikes.
There are many fantastic sightseeing tours over Cape Town but to travel in a Huey offers something a bit different. Not least is there fantastic visibility through the gaping holes in the sides, but there is the sensation of the sky flowing around you and the relentlessness of the massive noise of the rotors which create a sonic boom on each rotation.  The noise is an integral part of the experience.  Not for nothing is the Huey known as the Harley Davidson of the sky… and we were about to put it through its paces.
We flew almost directly north of Table Mountain, up over the curve of Table Bay, leaving the city bowl behind us – a blotch at the bottom of the vast mountain.  The surfers paddling out below us gazed up in awe.  I was watching our shadow flit across the waves when an unmistakeable outline appeared – whales.  We swooped down low and around them, one after the other – six or seven in total of the slow, silent behemoths of the deep.  What a sight.
To have spotted whales from a helicopter would have been exciting enough, but the last of the stretches of houses and golf courses lining the beach were petering out and we were on a mission.  We headed in a little from the beach and Lee took us right down, skimming the top of the long wild grass, heading straight for a hill.  It was just like the films – that classic scene in every film featuring a helicopter – where it bursts out unexpectedly from behind a grassy knoll or a building or a sand dune… that was us!  And Status Quo was blasting "You're in the Army Now…"
As we skimmed and dived and pirouetted over the waving grasses, I was amazed at the grace of the machine. How extraordinary that something built solely for the purposes of war could be so elegant and precise… though maybe that's exactly the point.  Even the noise of the rotors seemed a part of the dance, with crescendos and diminuendos rising and falling with the speed and angle of the machine. Only with any sudden lift did I feel that stomach lurching sensation, but nothing like the battering the fairground Waltzer gives. Sometimes the Huey seemed to be almost on its side but, Wall-of-Death-like we were glued to our seats, gaping stupidly as the ground came up to meet us.  Time after time we looped and curved and rolled, often just a couple of feet from the ground, and the view changed from blue sky to blue sea to green grass with only Table Mountain in the background as a steady reference point. Awesome.
Ah, the things I put myself through for you readers.  Well, as Hawkeye once said in that other Vietnam film, M*A*S*H,  "It was the least I could do. I always do the least I can do."
Here's a youtube video so you can see what it is like:
"Huey helicopter trip cape town" — This is footage of a helicopter trip i took on a visit to cape town, south af...

Quinn Soon to Have Contacts in Eye Places

We went to Q's eye appnt today. 

Good news is that physiologically he looks ok. The opthalmologist says he is not concerned about anything developmental and that this is probably pure genetics. He says from what he can tell Q should be able to have Lasik in future. 

For now he is getting specs - with super thick lenses - with an updated prescription, and we are going to trial some contact lenses. Both the Optometrist & Opthalmologist think the contacts should allow him to see better, as the thick lenses on specs cause some, erm what's the opposite of magnification?... 'smallination' so while they crisps things up it actually makes them smaller and harder to see. Which he says explains why Q can't read the smaller letters on the test charts and that this should improve with contacts.

He has been asking for contacts for a while now, and I told him it was going to depend on personal hygiene habits and maturity and I think we are pretty much there now. So we are going to go ahead and try that out!

In the mean time we await the contacts and new specs.

Thursday, 8 November 2012

Quinn Aaai Issues

So we have to go see an Opthalmologist tomorrow...

Quinn is 12 (nearly 13) and has been wearing prescription specs since he was around 8 years old. His first prescription was -1.5 in both eyes. His eyes have deteriorated steadily and quite rapidly since (his father's family all have/had fairly bad eye sight) and his latest test on Tues showed R- -6.5 and L - 6.75 and he also has astigmatism. The optometrist thought it was a good idea for him to be seen by an opthalmologist to ensure there are no other issues or factors we should be managing. She is concerned about how fast and steadily his eyesight is declining and it shows no sign of slowing down.

Aaai. This poor child. Bad hearing AND Bad Eyesight! That just sucks donkey-balls man!

This shows how his sight has declined since 2008:

Monday, 5 November 2012

Luleka Exchange Part 2

So after Quinn's 'Khayaletsha Bra' Sandile  came to stay, the boys from our school were meant to have a reciprocal exchange with the Khayaletsha school 'Luleka' the next month. Sadly there was some political instability in the area triggered by the truck driver's strike and the Luleka teachers advised that the area was not completely safe at the time and so our boys never got to sleep over or spend time going to school in Khayaletsha. This is disappointing because I think it would have been a very valuable learning experience for our boys and by all accounts this is usually memorable and enriching for them. Anyway there was not much we could do about it.  So what they did instead was break the exchange into 2 parts.

On the first day our boys went through to Khayaletsha and attended a children's home and had a township tour. Including a visit to Mzoli's where apparently they got to sample 'Smiley'. I knew it as 'skop' (short for skaap-kop) but Smiley seems to be the accepted vernac. Quinn says he ate a part of the cheek. Brave boy!

The second day was a Sunday visit to the school itself where parents could join in , and I did, where we set about gardening  and painting and generally giving the school a spring-clean and face-lift. We worked hard painting and cleaning and chatted and played a little bit too. Afterwards the teachers and parents of Luleka served us a yummy lunch – chicken, rolls, worse and salads. The lady in charge (who I think is the head or deputy head of the school) is such a warm and loving woman. I loved her to bits!
Griff showing off one of the poles we painted. There were well over 100 we had to paint in the end. Those buggers were everywhere! There's no before pic, but they looked pretty grotty and we really helped to spruce them up. G was a star and worked like a champ.
Quinn spent most of his day with another group, painting and cleaning inside. He also did a spot of gardening and found this cute carrot.
All in all it was a fulfilling and worthwhile experience. It was actually quite fun. I like exposing my boys to this kind of thing so they can see how other people live and to realize that they are pretty privileged… as well as to see how strong a community these people have which is something we are a bit lacking!

Saturday, 3 November 2012

Lion's Head 28 Oct 2012

Last Sunday evening I took 3 ladies from work up Lion's Head. Neetha and Manut are from Chennai (India) and have been working here for 6 months and will be going back soon. They have not had much of a chance to see the sights of Cape Town, and Elana – while a local, grew up in the Northern Suburbs so – has never been up Lion's Head before either.

It was a simply perfect evening and we really enjoyed the trip.

I do love Lion's Head! 

Mr Bendy

We saw this guy at the waterfront last week... how crazy stretchy is he hey!?
Wow – OW!

Greenpoint Park

The boys and I spent an hour or 2 at Green Point park last week-end.

It really is a lovely place. So beautiful, fun and tranquil. We live in a wonderful place.

Halloween 2012

This was me on Wednesday…
 The guys at work kinda liked it... until they looked UP and saw the rest of me.
Let's just say they were very confused and conflicted that day.

Friday, 2 November 2012

Hairy Scary!

We had to dress up at work on Wednesday for Halloween. The brief was 'Hairy Scary'. Being me, I took this quite literally. I borrowed some of Quinn's dress-up gear and ended up with THIS!
 Some of the others….

Thursday, 1 November 2012

Boys' School ANA Results

The Schools here do ANA (Annual National Assessment) Test in English (primary language) and Mathematics.

As far as I can establish this is both to assess the performance of the particular learner as well as the school/district, to see if they are on track and doing ok. It does not go towards their pass mark for the year but is used as a tool to decide if intervention is required, on either an individual or whole school/district basis -  I THINK.

I found this which explains:
ANA is intended to provide regular, well-timed, valid and credible data on learner achievement in the education system. Assessment of learners' performance in the GET Band (Grades 1- 9) has previously been done at school level. Unlike examinations that are designed to inform decisions on learner promotion and progression, ANA data is meant to be used for both diagnostic purposes at individual learner level and decision-making purposes at systemic level.

At the individual learner level, the ANA results will provide teachers with empirical evidence on what the learner can and/or cannot do at a particular stage or grade and do so at the beginning of the school year. Schools will inform parents of their child's ANA performance in March 2011.

At systemic level, ANA provides reliable data for policy decisions related to provision and support required at various levels of the system.  The ANA will make it easier for district offices to determine where support is most urgently needed and by allowing principals, teachers and parents to plan in a more informed manner how to improve performance.

The ANA will be administered and marked by teachers, moderated by districts. At national level, the DBE will also sample scripts for moderation (limited to Grades 3, 6 and 9) to check if marking was done consistently across districts and provinces. Schools will then report individual learner results to the learner's parents. In the schools that shall be sampled for independent external verification of ANA at Grades 3, 6 and 9 marking and reporting to the Minister will be done by an independent agent.

Anyway the boy's got their reports today and this is how they've faired:

Quinn - Grade 6
Language -     90%    (Grade average of school 79%)
Mathematics - 72%   (Grade average of school 69%)

Griffin - Grade 4
Language -      76%   (Grade average of school 77%)
Mathematics - 86%   (Grade average of school 83%)

Considering they get very little homework supervision or extra coaching, I'd say they are doing pretty darn well.

Thursday, 25 October 2012

Think of all the stories that we could have told...

I've heard this a few times and it keeps catching my ear, a friend just reminded me about it again now.... so herewith your SOTD.

Not many lyrics... It's odd, but I love it anyway. :)

One day baby, we'll be old
Oh baby, we'll be old
And think of all the stories that we could have told 

No more tears, my heart is dry
I don't laugh and I don't cry
I don't think about you all the time
But when I do - I wonder why 

One day baby, we'll be old
Oh baby, we'll be old
And think of all the stories that we could have told

Unbelievably it is a MAN! ... here is the original acoustic version.

And full lyrics:
No more tears, my heart is dry
I don't laugh and I don't cry
I don't think about you all the time
But when I do – I wonder why

You have to go out of my door
And leave just like you did before
I know I said that I was sure
But rich men can't imagine poor.

One day baby, we'll be old
Oh baby, we'll be old
And think of all the stories that we could have told

Little me and little you
Kept doing all the things they do
They never really think it through
Like I can never think you're true

Here I go again – the blame
The guilt, the pain, the hurt, the shame
The founding fathers of our plane
That's stuck in heavy clouds of rain.

One day baby, we'll be old
Oh baby, we'll be old
And think of all the stories that we could have told.

Wednesday, 24 October 2012

Am I stylish!??

Do you think I am stylish?? I would never have thought so.


I mean I have 2 very stylish and chic sisters. Who have lovely hair, nails, outfits etc,  and I always think I am the 'country-bumpkin' member of my family. The no-fuss, practical, non-girlie-girl. I'd rather climb a tree or kick a ball than look proper or fuss with dresses, skirts or accessories. I'd also rather go for a run, cycle, or swim than worry about my HAIR!


I sometimes joke that I am not a 'real' girl. Getting dressed-up, and even buying clothing and stuff does not excite me. Not even shoes, and no not handbags either. Look I must admit that I AM starting to notice and admire some nice things, but even if I buy stuff I find I don't really wear it. I stick to quick, easy, practical and comfortable. Anything fussy or needing special treatment or behaviour, or shoes I can't run around in just get relegated to the back of the closet...


I wake up at 06:30am and we leave the house at 07:00am. That includes making coffee and everything, so I really do not spend a lot of time grooming myself. AT ALL.


But I have recently been trying a tiny bit harder. I'll remember to wear accessories, an perfume. I'll put an outfit out the night before, so spend 2-mins instead of 1 thinking about and selecting something, and I'll try to make my hair less mad and unkempt. You know try to look at least a little respectable...


Anyway, I have also been trying to wear skirts and dresses a little more, instead of my usual slack ad a top 'uniform'. Yesterday I wore a body hugging chocolate-brown wrap-around dress (yes the same one that ended up doing a Marilyn Monroe on the way home in front of my colleagues! As mentioned on FB) with high-heeled boots and black tights...


I received this lovely email from my one of my team members at work today.


"Hi Jane


I may be very conservative in my own dressing, but I (thinkJ) I know when someone looks good. And you know you always do. But yesterday as you came walking down the passage you really looked like someone straight out of a magazine spread!"


I replied:


"Wow, really? That is so sweet of you. Thank-you.


I have never been much of a style/dress-up person – unlike people like xxx etc who really know how to 'put themselves together'. I am much more practical, on-the-go and utilitarian. I spend about 15-20 mins getting up and dressed in the morning! And I have always thought that that really shows. I have been trying to make a bit more effort to wear different things from my wardrobe though and mix and match a bit more interestingly. So thanks for noticing and commenting. I really appreciate it!


I think you always look lovely. J "

 And she said:


"Really yes!


To me you stand out in your own way. One doesn't have to 'dress up'. You either have it or you don't.  And you have that special something that gives you a 'different, often model-like magazine look'.  See, what comes naturally usually works the best!


You're definitely one of those people (with styleJ) that I will remember! When I leave."


I am not sure I agree with her, but how lovely is that. I was actually feeling a bit fat and bloated and blah today (PMS!?), but that totally made my day! J Isn't it nice when people take the time to give you a meaningful compliment?

Silly Hat day - 19 Oct 2012

We are working damn hard at work these days. There is a lot of stress and pressure and demands and the deadlines are tight and the consequences of missing them or making mistakes is scary… But that said we do still try to have fun and our efforts are noticed and rewards and we are encouraged to have fun in between the work. A work-hard play-hard ethos. So Friday was 'Sill Hat Day' and being me I embraced it with gusto.

I didn't realize it was a competitive event else I would have gone all out, but as it was I won 3rd place…..

Because life is serious enough, wear a SILLY HAT to work in Friday 19 Oct 2012

A big thank you to all who participated in the SILLY HAT day!!

 The winners are…. 
3rd Place:
Jane Fraser

So this is what I looked like…. 

Wednesday, 17 October 2012

Goodnight Sweetheart

I had a pencil in my mouth last night while I was searching for something, and I said 'Goodnight sweetheart' to Quinn as he walked off to bed. He paused came back into the room and said 'Did you just say "Goodnight retard"??' 
:twisted: 8) :lol:

*snort laugh* But see how easy it is to offend someone completely inadvertently and unintentionally, when you are ACTUALLY trying to be nice? What is SAID and what is HEARD can be entirely different! Wow, no wonder relationships are so hard! LOL

Tuesday, 16 October 2012

Quinn's poem about Griffin

My dear darling oldest child emailed this 'poem' to me tonight...

What a lovely brother he is!?


holy !

it it smells like !

it looks like !

it feels like !

that means its....GRIFFIN!!!! !